Perfect Locks Contest Winner… | Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody…

Recently, I won 8 ounces of Indian Remy wavy hair from Perfect Locks via Miss Jia's website! 


Perfect Locks Contest Winner… | Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody…


Well if you click on that... you're gonna get this:   


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OMG! The post was deleted just hours after I had won a Perfect Locks contest for an Indian hair giveaway because Miss Jia and one of hher weblog fans and twitter follower presented her an email that questioned the validity and authenticity of my entry story!   I found out by reading all the painful and derogatory comments and tweets directed towards me  which I later found out were based on a false accusation about an assumed "FOTKI" account that had the same pictures of me posted using a different username. Can you say...DRAMA! I'm not wired for that. All I could do was cry as I scrambled to send additional pictures and email after email trying to confirm the validity of my entry.  I couldn't even celebrate! I got maybe three congrats before I got snatched down off my cloud just as fast as I floated up there! Yes, for a moment, I let 'em steal my joy! (Keep in mind, this contest entry was the very first time I had ever spoken out in a public forum with regard to my TTM condition!) 


It was a bittersweet win for me and I'm still a little salty about it. Thankfully though,  Gautama Swamy  of Perfect Locks handled the whole incident with such compassion and empathy, it seemed to give me back my dignity!

Contest: Win 18″ Wavy Indian Hair from Perfect Locks

So I entered my story!....

              

AND WON!!!!!

 My Entry Story

Thank you MissJia for this contest! My name is Felicia Wills (Twitter name is @mrsfwillsFiFi) I have been following Perfect Locks on Twitter and Facebook for some time now just waiting for the opportunity ($) to try their brand. I have a condition called Trichotillomania (TTM) that I acquired around the age of 10. In junior & high school I wore a different color bandanna everyday to cover my head. It wasn't funny then but it got snatched off a lot as you can imagine! I started wearing Indian hair weaves, sewn in using a net to cover bald spots in 1997 when my boss at the salon I worked in sold it to me. It was the best hair I had ever used but it had lice. They were dead, but still! Well it's been a real adventure ride trying to find anything comparable in quality as far as no tangles or matting. I need quality and durability. Hair that can last up to one year so I can keep my natural hair covered and not pull at it. I have read the reviews and watched the videos from satisfied customers over the past few months since I learned of them and I am hopeful that once I try for myself, I will be a customer for years to come. As a new blogger and beauty professional (http://naturalnailenhancements.blogspot.com/,)  and (http://howdoyoudoyourdo.blogspot.com/) I will highly recommend any good product I believe in. Though shameful, attached are pictures of what TTM looks like;

http://cid-0fc6a48f5ce2ac4f.photos.live.com/browse.aspx/TTM
I really can be a pretty girl. Just need a little Indian Hair and some M.A.C to help me out so I can look more like my husband's girlfriend and the wife again! Thanks again and Good luck to all who enter!

Felicia Wills

National Trichotillomania Awareness week is October 1-7, 2010. 
http://www.trich.org/involved/ntaw.html

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UGH!! I HATE MY NATURAL HAIR!

Had to release and let that go as I can learn to embrace my hair and everything else about me! After all....My black is beautiful! Learn to love your kinks! Don't deny your roots!...they say.  

I know I'm not supposed to say I hate my hair, so I'll just say...I strongly dislike my natural hair most of the time.  It's just not beautiful to me, or manageable for that matter. It has no style and won't hold a curl. It poofs up in the slightest humidity and looks and feels like cotton. What's to love about that?

I love beauty and everything beautiful! And because I feel beauty doesn't necessarily come natural for me, I love the ability to create beauty as well as enhance the beauty I do posses, and that of others as well. Like an artist I enjoy crafting makeovers of the hair, skin and nails, solving problem areas and enhancing aesthetics in others as well as myself. Thus raising self esteem and confidence. That is my passion.

My TTM
I suspect it all started between the 4th & 5th grade. I remember I was 9. But I can't be too certain why or what triggered TTM for me. I can only remember feeling self conscience, insecure....and anxious. I was a nervous kid....apparently. Though I didn't realize anything was wrong with me other than I was painfully shy and I bit my nails.  But I would think that was normal seeing as how I had already attended 6 or more schools between kindergarten and sixth grade! Some in different cities or counties or whatever. I was a kid. They all seemed so far away. With each new school came a whole new set of teachers and students. Mostly I remember being in nice neighborhoods and good schools though.

Social skills were not my strong point and life at home was a bit strict and sheltered. By fourth or fifth  grade, the most traumatic thing I had experienced was Grandma dying, and our family moving across the country! Back then I lived in the Midwest and I had only encountered mostly Whites, some Blacks, some mixed like Mom, the Jewish community, and an occasional foreign exchange student of Asian decent.  Then we moved to California, and I saw mostly people of Spanish decent, with hair down to their butts just like the dolls I used to play with. That was the first time I remember putting my hand to my head, running my fingers through it, feeling around, twirling my fingers around a coarse strand of hair and pulling it out. See I could feel the difference between the Trinidad roots and the "white side" of the family in the texture of my hair. Some hairs were fine and flexible and others were coarse and wiry. Those had to go. With hopes that they'd come back silky and long like mommy's hair. And so I pulled strand by strand until I had a noticeable bald spot in the top of my head. My hair was short, fine, and thin so most of the time, I couldn't cover up the spots. So in junior high school, I wore a scarf to hide my hair and the bald spots and just tried to outgrow it!

I only say I hate my hair because I have yet to conquer this urge to pull, although not for the same reasons anymore. It's become more of a nervous habit. (Although I'm quite sure a psychoanalyst would label this behavior as a form of self hatred)...and also because of all the many times I have tried to embrace and love my nappy dappy cotton puff hair,  I still don't know how to work with it, what to do with it, or how to style it. Oh, I've tried it all! Most stylists say I have a very nice soft grade of hair. But even when I have it styled by another professional, and I think I've finally found something that may work for me....two days later a bald spot appears! And I honestly don't recall pulling that much.

I put on a wig for fun at home for the first time in the sixth grade and I remember the feeling of instant confidence once I looked in the mirror at a full thick head of  hair. My Auntie corn rolled it for me and suddenly, I didn't mind if you looked me in the eyes. I thought I was cute. I never actually wore a wig until after high school. To wear a wig in school, uh...no. Weaves were not around yet, actually individuals weren't popular yet either. Just corn rolls...which you couldn't do over bald spots.

Fast forward to today and wigs and weaves it is! Just about everyone wears extensions! And I'm okay with that now, I think...

I found the following information to be very interesting and helpful! Check it out.
http://www.perfectlocks.com/blog/busted-top-5-african-american-hair-care-myths-revealed


National Trichotillomania Awareness week is October 1-7, 2010. 
Please visit http://www.trich.org/involved/ntaw.html for more information on TTM and to find ways you can get involved. 

My big secret REVEALED!!!

Initially, the concept of this blog was to be in interview format. I wanted to talk to real people whose hairstyles I find interesting yet professional looking, and find out what some of their secrets are and blog about it! But being that this was going to be about hair, it got personal for me.


So many of you are rocking all kinds of styles from natural to extensions and everything in between! If you're anything like me, you change hairstyles and/or hair color seasonally. For me this is in part due to weather and activities, which can be a major factor when choosing a style. Over the years I have narrowed it down to a select few styles that I have found to be flattering to my face shape, body shape and lifestyle. Still as new styles come about, or I see things I'd like to try, I get curious. 


Truthfully, my own curiosity about how to create and maintain hairstyles actually comes from my big secret. I heard it somewhere before that we are only as sick as our secrets.  
I have Trichotillomania or TTM.  There, I said it! (SIGH!)  


TTM is an impulse control disorder to pull out one's hair resulting in a bald patch at the pulling site(s). That said, I have recently decided to include my experience with TTM in my blog since it is such a major part of how I consider hairstyles that work for me, for awareness, and in hopes that it may help someone else who may desire the courage to seek treatment and support.  


National Trichotillomania Awareness week is October 1-7, 2010. 


For more information on TTM and to find ways you can get involved, please visit the following links: 
http://www.trich.org/involved/ntaw.html 
http://westsuffolkpsych.homestead.com/trich_cbt.html