Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Free Brazilian Remy Lace Front Wig Contest Entry Brings TTM Awareness to Business Owner!

Queens of Weave Contest


My Entry:


The major challenges that I face with my hair are keeping bald spots covered that were acquired from Trichotillomania. (TTM). I have never tried a lace wig and would love to win one! Win a free lace front wig here:http://www.queenslace.com/winafreelacefr

ont.htm

Queens of Weave Lace Wigs is located in Hartford CT. We sell perfect undetectable lace wigs and teach females how to wear them correctly.

I entered this contest on October 12, 2010 but I didn't win :-(


HOWEVER!!!...

We won one for TTM AWARENESS! WHOOOHOOOO!


Yondel B., Owner of QUEENS OF LACE wrote about what she learned from their Contest and had this to say: 




What I learned from this Contest:



I learned about Trichotillomania(pronounced: trik-oh-till-oh-may-nee-ah) is a type of psychological condition that involves strong urges to pull out one's own hair. This is a real condition that does exists. I wasn't aware of it and I am glad that I am now. People who suffer from Trichotillomania are sometimes bullied, deal with anxiety, and depression. I wanted to make sure all of my subscribers were aware of this as well. No one deserves to be picked on period and these people are strong yet phenomenal in my book. I will continue learning about Trichotillomania because Queens of Weave would like to help. I will keep you guys updated on this...

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Free Brazilian Remy Lace Front Wig

Today, during my internet surfing and research, I stumbled upon a site called The Lace Wig Connection. http://thelacewigconnection.ning.com


It's a site for anyone who loves, buys, sells, or applies lace wigs.  They offer a 1-stop place for buyers, sellers, & stylists to meet, greet and share. I have always wanted a lace wig and I would also love to learn to make them for clients! (It's always been a vision of mine) so I joined. There I visited a vendor who is holding a contest from October 6-19, 2010 for a Free Brazilian Remy Lace Front Wig!


The rules were simple...post the answer to the question: state what your major hair challenges are and submit!  Repost your response on your facebook, twitter, blog, or all! Along with your post tell your friends about the contest with the link

Here's my answer...
The major challenges that I face with my hair are keeping bald spots covered that were acquired from Trichotillomania. (TTM). 


Hope I win!!!!! I have never tried a lace wig and would love to win one! You should try too!
Win a free lace front wig here:http://www.queenslace.com/winafreelacefront.htm

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Trichotillomania: Hair Loss, Treatment, and Perfect Locks.com



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPEAkWw15i8

Trichotillomania: Very Personal Losses

Trichotillomania: Very Personal Losses

big Trichotillomania01 300x225 Trichotillomania: Very Personal LossesFor the majority of people, a full head of hair is something to be prized, an indication of beauty and health. For others, hair is to be sacrificed, to maintain a humble spirit and balanced soul. However, for millions of men and women suffering from trichotillomania, otherwise known as “trich” (“trick”), hair can cause real anguish, as – regardless of their attitude toward their locks – these people suffer from an uncontrollable urge to pull their hair out by the root. It is estimated that between 2 and 4 percent of Americans suffer from this disease, and yet there is little public awareness of trich or how it works.

What is Trichotillomania?

Trichotillomania (pronounced “TRICK-oh-TILL-oh-MANE-ee-ah”) is a scientifically-recognized psychological disorder that leaves its sufferers routinely compelled to pluck out their hair, either strand by strand, or in clumps. Hair pulling may be done on purpose and involve many complex rituals, or unconsciously, with the hands or tools like tweezers or hairbrushes. Some trichotillomania sufferers pull out their eyebrows, eyelashes, leg, arm, or other body hair, although the vast majority focuses on the crown area of the head, leaving “Friar Tuck”-like bald patches surrounded by hair.
While doctors have not pinpointed any exact causes of trichotillomania, it is believe that genetics and neurological imbalances play strong roles in developing the disease; a handful of studies seem to indicate that the same genes and brain chemicals that mutate or get out of balance to cause depression, Alzheimer’s disease, Tourette’s syndrome, and Parkinson’s may be involved in bringing about trich, too. Other risk factors are family history, stress, and mental illness, as many trich patients report pulling their hair to relieve stress or anxiety, or to cope with depression. In adults, women seek help for this disorder more often than men, but young boys and girls appear to develop it at the same rate. This leads many researchers to believe that trichotillomania strikes men and women equally as often, but that women may simply seek treatment more.

How TTM Effects Its Victims

Many trichotillomania patients already suffer from low self-esteem, depression, or anxiety disorders; stressful events like the death of a loved one, job loss, or recent move have been noted to trigger trich, as has puberty. The loss of a person’s hair – unexplainable to those who do not actually realize they are pulling it out – is often a source of further shame and distress, as victims feel powerless to stop what they may see as unwarranted balding. They may also feel under siege by troubles, and are often quite embarrassed about being seen in public without a wig, hat, or concealing makeup. Without a proper understanding of what’s happening, the condition can worsen, as the added stress leads to more hair pulling, just for the sense of relief, and the cycle begins all over again.
Still other victims can spiral into secretive and almost obsessive-compulsive patterns of behavior, just to hide their hair pulling from others. Compulsive plucking can lead to baldness, destroying hair follicles at the root and preventing new growth, and can also cause or aggravate carpal tunnel disease. For sufferers who eat their pulled hair, digestive blockages, weight loss, and severe illnesses can occur because of internal hair balls.

Diagnosing the Disease

Some possible signs of trichotillomania are:
  • bald patches on the head, face, or body,
  • missing, or unnaturally or unevenly thinned eyelashes or eyebrows,
  • routinely pulling out hair, and
  • chewing, eating, playing with, or rubbing removed hair across the lips or face.
If you suspect that you or a loved one might suffer from this disorder, a visit to the doctor can help confirm or disprove your thoughts. During this visit, the physician will ask several questions about the frequency and circumstances of the hair pulling, as well as the emotions that surround this behavior. Beforehand, it helps to gather as much evidence as possible about how the patient sees themselves and their hair, and how they feel before, after, and during the pulling, so that the doctor can gain a clear picture of the condition. Many doctors will also request a skin or hair sample for biopsy, just to rule out any other causes of the hair loss.

Treatment for TTM

Right now, the most common treatment for trichotillomania is psychotherapy. As this is a compulsive disorder, most doctors refer patients to psychologists or emotional therapists who use a combination of approaches to help victims become more aware of the situations and feelings that lead to the pulling, as well as techniques for stopping it. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is often used for just this purpose, while alternative medicine practices like hypnosis and biofeedback offer promise, too. Antidepression drugs are used in some cases, but often have side effects and cannot be taken by all patients, so the best course of treatment is counseling and mental or emotional therapy.
As a stop-gap between diagnosis and treatment cycles, many victims find it helpful to identify the times when they are most likely to pluck, and then cover or busy their hands. Others opt to keep  short hair cuts, invest in wigs or hats, or join support groups.
For more information on trichotillomania, talk to your physician or mental health specialist, and be proactive about seeking help for yourself or others. There’s no need to keep this disease in the shadows anymore.

Trichotillomania Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Trichotillomania Causes, Symptoms & Treatment

Through spreading awareness, in helping others who still suffer from Trichotillomania, and may still believe they are the "only one".


Felicia Wills is a TTM sufferer and these are her examples. Also known as a Friar Tuck sign; a balding pate surrounded by a fringe of hair.


About the condition
Trichotillomania, AKA; "TTM" or "Trich" for short, is an impulse control disorder to pull out one's hair. The condition typically begins in children around age 12. The possible causes for TTM are being researched, but like most disorders, it probably results from a combination of genetics & environmental factors. Frequently, a stressful event can be associated with the onset, such as: change of schools, abuse, family conflict, or the death of a parent. The symptoms also may be triggered by pubertal hormonal changes. It is estimated to affect one to two percent of the population, or four to eleven million Americans.

Diagnosing the condition

Most people with trichotillomania pull hair from their scalp, especially the crown. Some also pull from the eyebrows, eyelashes, and other parts of the body. Most people pull hair with their fingers, but sometimes use tweezers. For some people, hair pulling is intentional and focused. Other people pull their hair unconsciously.
Signs and symptoms of trichotillomania may include:
  • Playing in hair and twirling strands around the fingers
  • Recurrent pulling out of one’s hair resulting in noticeable hair loss
  • Patchy bald areas on the scalp or other areas of your body
  • Sparse or missing eyelashes or eyebrows
  • Chewing or eating pulled-out hair
  • Playing with pulled-out hair
  • Rubbing pulled-out hair across the lips or face
  • An increasing sense of tension immediately before pulling out the hair or when resisting the behavior
  • Pleasure, gratification, or relief when pulling out the hair
  • The disturbance is not accounted for by another mental disorder and is not due to a general medical condition (i.e., dermatological condition)
  • The disturbance causes significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning

 Battling the condition from the sufferer's perspective

The persistence of the compulsion can vary considerably both from person to person and by occurrence to occurrence. At times it can be controlled with extra awareness and concentration, and at times the urge may be so strong that it becomes compulsive. Those afflicted with TTM go to great lengths to cover bald spots on their heads or missing eyelashes, and eyebrows with hairstyles, scarves, clothing, or makeup.
Because TTM was not in the public media in the United States until about 1989, many people with TTM have gone for many years without adequate information about their condition, or appropriate treatment. Self esteem is damaged and shame keeps them from reaching out for help. This is why TTM Awareness is so imperative!

 Possible remedies and or cures

Of all the disorders belonging to the OCD family, trichotillomania is probably one of the least understood by both sufferers and practitioners alike. It has also been, for many years, among the most frustrating and difficult to treat for all parties concerned.
There is no known cure for TTM. However, a wide range of treatment options are available to including: Hypnosis, Herbal Therapy, Psychiatric Drug Therapy Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Trichotillomania Support Groups, Self Esteem workshops, Relaxation Techniques and lots of will power.

Article written by Felicia Wills

Resources:
Trichotillomania Learning Center: http://www.trich.org
TrichWorld: http://trichworld.ning.com
The Mayo Clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/trichotillomania
COGNITIVE/BEHAVIORAL TREATMENT OF TRICHOTILLOMANIA By Fred Penzel, Ph.D.http://westsuffolkpsych.homestead.com

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Perfect Locks Contest Winner… | Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody…



Recently, I won 8 ounces of Indian Remy wavy hair from Perfect Locks via Miss Jia's website! 


Perfect Locks Contest Winner… | Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody…


Well if you click on that... you're gonna get this:   


NOT FOUND 
Sorry but  you are looking for something that isn't here. 


OMG! The post was deleted just hours after I had won a Perfect Locks contest for an Indian hair giveaway because Miss Jia and one of hher weblog fans and twitter follower presented her an email that questioned the validity and authenticity of my entry story!   I found out by reading all the painful and derogatory comments and tweets directed towards me  which I later found out were based on a false accusation about an assumed "FOTKI" account that had the same pictures of me posted using a different username. Can you say...DRAMA! I'm not wired for that. All I could do was cry as I scrambled to send additional pictures and email after email trying to confirm the validity of my entry.  I couldn't even celebrate! I got maybe three congrats before I got snatched down off my cloud just as fast as I floated up there! Yes, for a moment, I let 'em steal my joy! (Keep in mind, this contest entry was the very first time I had ever spoken out in a public forum with regard to my TTM condition!) 


It was a bittersweet win for me and I'm still a little salty about it. Thankfully though,  Gautama Swamy  of Perfect Locks handled the whole incident with such compassion and empathy, it seemed to give me back my dignity!










Contest: Win 18″ Wavy Indian Hair from Perfect Locks

So I entered my story!....

              
AND WON!!!!!


 My Entry Story

Thank you MissJia for this contest! My name is Felicia Wills (Twitter name is @mrsfwillsFiFi) I have been following Perfect Locks on Twitter and Facebook for some time now just waiting for the opportunity ($) to try their brand. I have a condition called Trichotillomania (TTM) that I acquired around the age of 10. In junior & high school I wore a different color bandanna everyday to cover my head. It wasn't funny then but it got snatched off a lot as you can imagine! I started wearing Indian hair weaves, sewn in using a net to cover bald spots in 1997 when my boss at the salon I worked in sold it to me. It was the best hair I had ever used but it had lice. They were dead, but still! Well it's been a real adventure ride trying to find anything comparable in quality as far as no tangles or matting. I need quality and durability. Hair that can last up to one year so I can keep my natural hair covered and not pull at it. I have read the reviews and watched the videos from satisfied customers over the past few months since I learned of them and I am hopeful that once I try for myself, I will be a customer for years to come. As a new blogger and beauty professional (http://naturalnailenhancements.blogspot.com/,)  and (http://howdoyoudoyourdo.blogspot.com/) I will highly recommend any good product I believe in. Though shameful, attached are pictures of what TTM looks like;
http://cid-0fc6a48f5ce2ac4f.photos.live.com/browse.aspx/TTM
I really can be a pretty girl. Just need a little Indian Hair and some M.A.C to help me out so I can look more like my husband's girlfriend and the wife again! Thanks again and Good luck to all who enter!

Felicia Wills

National Trichotillomania Awareness week is October 1-7, 2010. 
http://www.trich.org/involved/ntaw.html







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Sunday, September 12, 2010

UGH!! I HATE MY NATURAL HAIR!

Had to release and let that go as I can learn to embrace my hair and everything else about me! After all....My black is beautiful! Learn to love your kinks! Don't deny your roots!...they say.  

I know I'm not supposed to say I hate my hair, so I'll just say...I strongly dislike my natural hair most of the time.  It's just not beautiful to me, or manageable for that matter. It has no style and won't hold a curl. It poofs up in the slightest humidity and looks and feels like cotton. What's to love about that?

I love beauty and everything beautiful! And because I feel beauty doesn't necessarily come natural for me, I love the ability to create beauty as well as enhance the beauty I do posses, and that of others as well. Like an artist I enjoy crafting makeovers of the hair, skin and nails, solving problem areas and enhancing aesthetics in others as well as myself. Thus raising self esteem and confidence. That is my passion.

My TTM
I suspect it all started between the 4th & 5th grade. I remember I was 9. But I can't be too certain why or what triggered TTM for me. I can only remember feeling self conscience, insecure....and anxious. I was a nervous kid....apparently. Though I didn't realize anything was wrong with me other than I was painfully shy and I bit my nails.  But I would think that was normal seeing as how I had already attended 6 or more schools between kindergarten and sixth grade! Some in different cities or counties or whatever. I was a kid. They all seemed so far away. With each new school came a whole new set of teachers and students. Mostly I remember being in nice neighborhoods and good schools though.

Social skills were not my strong point and life at home was a bit strict and sheltered. By fourth or fifth  grade, the most traumatic thing I had experienced was Grandma dying, and our family moving across the country! Back then I lived in the Midwest and I had only encountered mostly Whites, some Blacks, some mixed like Mom, the Jewish community, and an occasional foreign exchange student of Asian decent.  Then we moved to California, and I saw mostly people of Spanish decent, with hair down to their butts just like the dolls I used to play with. That was the first time I remember putting my hand to my head, running my fingers through it, feeling around, twirling my fingers around a coarse strand of hair and pulling it out. See I could feel the difference between the Trinidad roots and the "white side" of the family in the texture of my hair. Some hairs were fine and flexible and others were coarse and wiry. Those had to go. With hopes that they'd come back silky and long like mommy's hair. And so I pulled strand by strand until I had a noticeable bald spot in the top of my head. My hair was short, fine, and thin so most of the time, I couldn't cover up the spots. So in junior high school, I wore a scarf to hide my hair and the bald spots and just tried to outgrow it!

I only say I hate my hair because I have yet to conquer this urge to pull, although not for the same reasons anymore. It's become more of a nervous habit. (Although I'm quite sure a psychoanalyst would label this behavior as a form of self hatred)...and also because of all the many times I have tried to embrace and love my nappy dappy cotton puff hair,  I still don't know how to work with it, what to do with it, or how to style it. Oh, I've tried it all! Most stylists say I have a very nice soft grade of hair. But even when I have it styled by another professional, and I think I've finally found something that may work for me....two days later a bald spot appears! And I honestly don't recall pulling that much.

I put on a wig for fun at home for the first time in the sixth grade and I remember the feeling of instant confidence once I looked in the mirror at a full thick head of  hair. My Auntie corn rolled it for me and suddenly, I didn't mind if you looked me in the eyes. I thought I was cute. I never actually wore a wig until after high school. To wear a wig in school, uh...no. Weaves were not around yet, actually individuals weren't popular yet either. Just corn rolls...which you couldn't do over bald spots.

Fast forward to today and wigs and weaves it is! Just about everyone wears extensions! And I'm okay with that now, I think...

I found the following information to be very interesting and helpful! Check it out.
http://www.perfectlocks.com/blog/busted-top-5-african-american-hair-care-myths-revealed


National Trichotillomania Awareness week is October 1-7, 2010. 
Please visit http://www.trich.org/involved/ntaw.html for more information on TTM and to find ways you can get involved.